Spring Fling Adds a Show

There is yet another show in our London Spring Fling itinerary. Saturday April 25th will be all theatre. We’ve got the one show at 1:30 and the next show at 7:30 with the prospect of grabbing a bite on the way. Naturally I love this sort of thing.

The two theatres are not that far from each other, even though, they are on opposite sides of the Thames. In the past, we would simply walk it. You get all of the view when you walk. I could walk London for days.

My partner, however is not as sprightly as he once was and we factor that into the travel time between shows. The 1.5 miles between the National Theatre and the Charing Cross Theatre can also be done in a cab or on the Tube.

My preference going anywhere of some distance in London is the Underground (Tube). As someone who grew up counting on the trains in NYC, the London system is a no brainer. The cab is a last resort and one that requires some extra time (traffic). Above ground busses are a possibility.

The new show we added is Mirrored Monet, a musical. We’re very curious about this show. It has a subject matter we both have interest it. Additionally this little theatre has put on some very good shows. It was announced after we had our week of tickets set for the trip. I got my shoehorn out and said, let’s make it fit.

Empty Spaces

Even though there are two of us in the house, it feels empty without Luna. I came home this afternoon and she wasn’t there to smell my shoes. I was sweeping something up in the kitchen, and the spot where her bowl had been looked strange, as if something should always be there.

I’ve got a spot in the garage where I keep her toys, food, etc. I’m hoping to donate them to dogs that can use them. But at the moment, I’m also alright with letting them sit for a minute.

We’ve hopped on some home projects that have been on the to-do list for awhile. I repaired the keyboard drawer at my desk. Garry has been involved with installing a motion sensor light in the kitchen.

We had two dead trees removed. The one in the back was a monster that snaked into the neighbors yard. The one out front had to be removed carefully as it became quite tight with electricity wires.

When they removed the tree outside, I was surprised to see how much cover we had. Now our front windows had a view of all our neighbors across from us. They also could see into our living room (with the shade drawn). The area outside where the tree stood also seemed empty. We will be planting something very soon.

I think there are times when empty spaces are alright, externally. It’s the stuff on the inside that’s hard, particularly when you lose someone close, be they a two-legged creature or four.

Luna’s Passing

This was the second morning.

I still look for her.

I made the coffee, and all I could feel was emptiness. Staring out the kitchen window, there was all this wind and drizzle, slapping the palm fronds into some of reality. Wake up? Fresh tears came with my coffee after having been the “strong” one over the last couple of days. I sat there and let it wash over me.

She was sick, dying, and it was time. We got her to McLaren Park, over to her favorite place (the Lake), one final time.

Luna was a rescue dog. A woman who already had 3 other dogs saved her from a previous owner, who had been abusing her. Whatever the abuse was, it left her a bit skiddish and cautious about most things. That home didn’t work out for Luna, as she didn’t get along with the German Shepherd there. The two had many fights.

Around this time, Garry and I had already begun our search. We had seen a few dogs before Luna. None of them stood out like her. She was a big ball of licking affection and energy for days. Her world-class zoomies were a daily attraction (when she was healthy). I could have sold tickets.

Anyway, she adopts us. We are family, a unit, a pack, right up until the reality of time knocks on the kitchen window. It’s as if you’re being slapped awake. Dogs live a fraction of the time that humans do; at some point, the sand runs out of that hourglass.

Season‘s Giving

Over the course of the last couple of weeks we’d been getting ready for today. I went through my closet and bagged up every jacket and coat I wasn’t using, that likely was taking up space. On a previous day, I bagged up old jeans and shirts. I even bagged up 20 baseball caps. It was the best kind of purge.

With everything in bags we packed the car to the hilt. Both the trunk and the back seats were jacked. I was a little concerned about the visibility of the rearview mirror but we were only going downtown (a few miles).

Temperatures in San Francisco have been consistently cold this first 12 days of December. Folks on the street are cold. ‘Tis the season. It’s that time to give back.

We go to St. Anthony’s Foundation in the Tenderloin. They give the clothes free of charge to those that need it. It’s a good Franciscan outfit, they’ve been at it since 1950. They are not the only folks that do great work in the community, naturally there is Out of the Closet and Community Thrift in the Mission, to name a few. We like Anthony because they get it to the people free.

Rainbows and Safety Bags

On Halloween weekend, I traveled to Honolulu as a pickup softball player for a Sacramento team I’ve played with a bunch. This was my second tournament in two weeks. Don’t try this without an understanding partner.

Previously, I’ve only been to the Big Island.

This was definitely the land of the rainbows. I counted a number of them on a few cab rides, they were beautiful to see but as a softballer you get concerned about the waterworks, that’s a prerequisite for such charm.

As I arrived Thursday night, there wasn’t much time to play tourist before the games began. My softball group got together Friday for a small hike on the Manoa Falls Trail. That was all uphill. It actually fit well with the right amount of exercise I wanted plus some nature.

Waikiki was alive with tourist traffic. I stayed in a hotel that had a real 70’s vibe, in a good way. It had a laid back feel and retro look with a big pool in the main lobby. Each night they had either a dj spinning tunes or a random lounge singer. Music wasn’t blasting it was background. I could easily stay here again. It was also pet friendly. I said hello to a few dogs during the weekend.

We played great in the games. I was in a groove with my bat. I think it was bonus for me to play in my league’s fall ball season. As a player, I prefer the repetition of practice or games, It keeps me warm (softball-wise).

We were unbeaten on our Sunday contests but then the skies opened up and soaked us hard. They had to call the tournament. We took 2nd place based on run differential. The coach wasn’t happy about it. He was better afterward with a Margarita in front of him.

In one of the games, I was involved in a collision at first base on the safety bag of all places. I ran at top speed to get to it. I couldn’t slow down when the first baseman decided that he was going to be on the bag as well (the safety bag is for the runner and meant to prevent this very thing). I slammed into his 270-pound frame quite roughly. It reminded me of a line from Don Quixote: “Whether the stone hits the pitcher or the pitcher hits the stone, it’s going to be bad for the pitcher”.

The shiner I sported would have turned heads in the SF Eagle. After impact I forgot my manners completely. I let the player have an earful and the umpire for I guess not calling me safe sooner. We sorted it out. Their coach let me know that he was inexperienced in that position. I believe my response was: “grrrr” or something.

Ouch.

Putting it together

In mid-October, I organized a softball tournament team for New York City’s Gotham Classic. It was fun. We got to play in Central Park and best of all, the group that we formed supported each other and had the best time. For me, that is the zenith of it, when we as a group, get to add positive memories. We came in second, which is cool but secondary…LOL.

October 2025

It reminded me of those tournament teams John and I put together. We had much success over 20 years of getting a band of merry softballers to go on the road, play ball, and have fun. This group had that feel.

In truth, I invited two guys from that old team and three from the local ballclub. I had more from my local club, but they started to get cold feet as we got closer to the date, so I had to try to recruit.

When my leads dried up, I turned back to the guys I picked up and asked if they knew anyone who could join. That was the golden ticket right there. Someone knew someone in Florida, while I got 2 more players from Boston and another from Houston.

We showed up on those Central Park benches as strangers and we clicked and gelled in that very first game. I heard some of our guys laughing comfortably in that very first game. We swept our triple header there.

After the tournament directors truncated the schedule to one day, we hopped in cabs to make our evening/night games on Randalls Island. The weather with intermittent showers was hinting at Sunday’s potential Nor’easter but this group remained focused and friendly.

All in all, we played from 11 to 11 with breaks to grab snacks. We hung out on Sunday because brunch wasn’t going to eat itself. I played West Village tour guide to whoever would listen. And by the time I headed back to my room, I was absolutely spent. Good times but it can take a village to put this thing together.

December Morning

This early December morning is riding on a 49 degree temperature. I actually wore a sweatshirt under my jacket (can’t remember the last time that happened) for my a.m. dog walk. Naturally, my pit bull does not care and wants to be outside, even after we’ve come back.

On cold mornings the door (to our back garden) is closed but Luna gets our attention for in and out access. She prefers that the door is open, at all times but she adjusts to placate the humans.

Right now I feel like a hibernation is needed of some sort. The holidays are here but I am content with the idea of being under the covers in warmth maybe reading a book. It’s a nice bit of foggy haze before a new year. There is more travel and softball in 2026. It will be here before you know it.

The sun is now breaking through. The temperature will slowly climb back to a more normal San Francisco thing and we will crack that door open. Luna likes sunning herself, while her human friends putter about finally throwing off their sleepy selves. It’s tea time

Naming names

When we were getting married, the conversation about our chosen last name was short. I had to recount my reasoning to a family member who had an opinion. There are no villains in this story. It’s excellent that Garry has a healthy relationship with his family (not all, like me).

The chat was: Hey, what do you want to do about this? Nothing? Yeah, same here. Truth be told, he thought about it more than I did. The man has a last name of 11 letters that need to be spelled to a customer service person over the phone each time. Our union certainly gave him an out, a hubby with a five-letter last name. What’s not to love?

As the story goes, the family member with the strong opinion impressed upon him to keep his name. In my corner, there was my brother, who did not understand why anyone would get married, so there were definitely no opinions coming there. One might assume that my disconnection with my biological folks may have pushed me to a decision to change it. No, at the end of the day, I didn’t see a reason to change it.

I was happy to have the choice. Names are given to you at birth; you don’t have a choice. Marriages do give you an opportunity to “move the furniture.”

I kept Plaza, and we did not hyphenate anything. It felt right, as we are both independent guys who are together.

Ah, but the tennis match: “Why aren’t you taking his name? “ She said.

“I really don’t see a point in it, “ I return.

“That’s a shame. Why don’t you want to?”

I thought about missing out on the absolute fun of changing all my cards, my driver’s license, etc., but I didn’t see a benefit to it. It wouldn’t give me magical powers or anything.”

Ultimately, she wasn’t satisfied with my answers. We’re both New Yorkers and could go on about the same thing, but what is the point? It’s like two pit bulls you introduce on top of a bed of roses. They’ll go at it and will come out alright, but those roses will be red confetti. Also, I came into this with an ace up my sleeve. She never took her husband’s last name when they got married.

After another question was posed, I gently inserted that ace into the discussion. “Look, you may want to sit this one out, “ I suggested. She wasn’t expecting that serve. The quiet that found us was cautious but warm.

40 love.

Emerald Classic

I’m having a quiet evening with Garry and Luna. The fog is low, Luna is reshaping pillows to get even more comfortable on the couch, and I’m juggling, keeping up with the SF Giants score, and reading a book. I glance at the window and watch the fog slowly move past the trees. It’s tough work if you can get it.

The Emerald City Classic is on tap for the weekend. This Seattle softball tournament is becoming a personal annual event. And why not? The city is fun. It’s easy to walk around town.

We’re playing about 20-25 minutes away in Issaquah. The weather will be around 70-72 for afternoon game times. It’s nice out there. In Issaquah, there is Lake Sammamish State Park, which is a 512-acre park. Last year, after the tournament, we spent a few hours at the beach, surrounded by those beautiful trees. I can easily do a repeat. And also win more games.

With the regular season over, many softballers take to the road to get their games in. I was in Long Beach three weeks ago. I’m heading to Seattle tomorrow, and at the end of the month, it will be the Russian River. Why do we do these things when our legs feel like tree trunks on Monday morning? We enjoy it.

Tomorrow night, I’m having dinner with an old friend and teammate from my Coasters travel team and the Moby Dick team previously. Jesse is a local. He can pick our restaurant. “Tell me when and where, “ I said. I am there.” He’s great fun. He always has a story. If he goes out to buy gum, there will be a bubble gum story, and it will be funny.

Soapbox Sunday

There are all sorts of crazy things happening in the United States right now. This is to be expected when a clown leads the circus. I hope that, somewhere down the line, the people who wanted this new reality see the carnage. It’s George Orwell and Kurt Vonnegut stuff.

I will continue to protest this corrupt government. Lawmakers in Congress need to wake up and stop drinking the Kool-Aid, find wherever it was they left their balls and fight the good fight for the people they are supposed to represent (All the People).

Who are we?

If we’re not indigenous, then we come from immigrants. I don’t care if you were born in Hackensack, NJ. Our families are from elsewhere, and they came here for similar reasons. Is this not the land of opportunity?

Please spare me the lectures about getting rid of people who live in a country simply because they are undocumented. They are (by and large) hard-working folks who are trying to support their families. Many are being underpaid and “stealing” work no one wants to do for barely minimum wage.

Let them work. Give them a realistic path to citizenship. Don’t make them a political pawn. And leave them alone already.

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